We all know those parents, so desperate for their kids to like them that they actually never parent them at all. I'm here to tell you, you are NOT your kids' best friend, you are their parent. Behaving otherwise is a HUGE disservice to yourself, your children and the rest of the world that has to deal with the little assholes once you are done with them. I've heard it all before: "I can't be mean!" or "Oh but they are just SO cute!" or the whole "We want to be the cool parents" attitude that too many parents seem to take.
Look, nobody is telling you to go all Guantanamo Bay on your kids asses, but why is it that suddenly people are afraid to discipline their children?? You do know that disciplining your children does not ruin them right? In fact, it's quite the opposite; living in a home without discipline is what will ruin your child. The fact is that you are setting them up for failure once they enter the "real world".
Children and adults alike NEED limitations. We need to know what the game plan is. Even entrepreneurs and other self-employed adults follow a sort of unspoken code, so you can't even use the excuse that you are trying to raise an independent thinker. No, you are trying to fill some hole within yourself because maybe you had no friends growing up, or maybe your parents were TOO controlling. I hate to break it to you but those are YOUR issues, not your children's. Go seek psychiatric help to fix your mommy or daddy issues, don't fuck up your kids because YOU don't know how to deal.
Look, this doesn't mean that I am not a fun mom. In fact I am the funnest (I know it's not a word but whatever)! My kids can have their friends over whenever they like, they can play video games and they even have their own devices. Being a good parent doesn't equal being a boring parent! I love hanging out with my kids, going on bike rides, playing board games and video games, but when push comes to shove, they know damn well who is alpha around here and it sure as hell ain't them.
No, my kids are not perfect. No child is perfect. My children are also not little dip shits that other parents tell their kids they aren't allowed to hang out with. Why? Because I DO MY FUCKING JOB and I do it damn well!! My kids have been taught to respect themselves and others. My children have been taught to respect their elders, including teachers, doctors, nurses, customer service reps and other people's parents. They know that when they visit friends their friends' parents are their parents by proxy for the time they spend there. The rules of that household are their rules to follow (unless it involves doing something that they otherwise would not be allowed to partake in).
I see all kinds of parents gossipping in front of their children. They speak poorly of teachers, coaches, bosses, "friends"...whatever...directly in front of their kids. DO you know what this teaches your kids? It shows them a HUGE lack of respect. Think before you speak. No matter how mature or advanced you think your child is, at the end of the day a child is a child. They will emulate your behaviour because they subconsciously want to please you and in their brain BEING you will please you most.
Why do people rush their children? Don't you think it's far better to allow them to maintain every last drop of innocence possible, as long as possible? My children have friends that started watching horror movies in kindergarten. "Oh but it doesn't scare him" the parents will say. So what? So just so your kid can be the "cool one" who can say "Oh I watched Child's Play when I was 6"??? You know what people think when they hear that? They think "What the fuck is WRONG with these parents?" Just because a child SAYS that they aren't emotionally damaged by this exposure, doesn't mean that it's TRUE! They are kids!! WHAT the fuck do THEY know about emotional scarring? Get your heads out of your asses people. Kids are not emotionally developed enough for that kind of pressure and that kind of stress...and YES I assure you they are stressed whether they tell you or not. They don't KNOW to tell you...why....because they are KIDS Goddammit!!!! My kids have also asked to watch movies like "Anabelle" or "The Conjouring"....NO! "But so and so is allowed"...really, oh well in that case...AH FUCK NO! I explain to my children the reasons why and that they are allowed to be upset, no one can tell you how to feel. I explain that it is for their protection and it is my job as a parent to do so. Guess what? They moved on...they couldn't not care less, because as most childhood fascinations as such...it was a phase!
Case in point, if you don't want to "parent" then don't BECOME a parent. We are breeding a generation of self involved, self important, piece of shit excuses of human beings, each with a ME complex the size of the Grand Canyon. I'm not saying every parent should discipline exactly the same way I do. That is NOT the point of this. The point is at least TRY to raise conscientious human beings that will SOMEHOW contribute to the betterment of society. Otherwise, what is the point of having kids???
A Real Life Mommy ......OUT!
